Ep. #148 How to Use Grief to Increase Your Accountability and Desire for a Better Life

by Marci Barker / October 7th, 2025
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How to Use Grief to Increase Your Accountability and Desire for a Better Life
In this episode of Your Loving Kick in the Pants, I talk openly about grief, why it’s so hard, but also how it can shape us for the better. I share how serving in my church inspired me to bring up grief as a discussion topic after several recent deaths in my community. I remembered losing my father-in-law to cancer and how that experience changed my outlook on life, family, and purpose. Through loss, I’ve learned that grief gives us “stunning awareness”, a deep understanding that forces us to grow, change, and appreciate what really matters.

I also share stories of two other people who changed my life: my friend Steve, whose faith journey showed me what it means to live right up until the very end, and my friend Bee, who inspired me to stay ready to serve and express love through handwritten cards. These memories remind me that even when we’re hurting, grief helps us remember lessons of love, compassion, and service. My loving “kick in the pants” is that we can’t avoid grief, but we can choose to let it make us better, more caring, and more aware of the legacy we’re building.
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Topics Covered in the Episode:
Why grief is difficult but purposeful
How serving in church inspired a discussion about death
The emotional impact of losing close loved ones
Lessons learned from my father-in-law’s life and passing
Finding meaning in life when everything feels small or pointless
The idea of “stunning awareness” and how it changes behavior
How my friend Steve transformed through faith and service
Remembering loved ones by what they taught us
My friend Bee’s example of kindness through handwritten cards
Learning to face grief, feel it fully, and use it for personal growth
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